The Decision Map — Good Question.

Good Question.

With Kim Stern.

The
Decision
Map.

A tool for when you're circling. Find the move.

Decision Practice Tools—01.

If you're here, something is circling.

The same thought, again. The one that wakes you at 3am. The same decision not landing. You've been here before.

You've turned it over, looked at it from every side. Maybe even spoken it out loud.

And still, no move.

This is where you stop circling, and choose.

There are two ways to start. If you know the decision you're circling, begin there. If you can't quite name it yet, start with B.

Either way you're in the right place.

Work through this in order. Don't skip ahead. Each section narrows the field, removes what isn't yours, and moves you forward.

On the other side of this, you won't be circling anymore. You'll be out of your head. And you'll know what moves first.

Before you start.

Where are you starting?

A.

I know what decision I'm circling.

B.

Something feels stuck but I can't name it yet.

Track B.

For when you can't name it yet.

Find the decision you're circling.

Something feels unresolved. Name it.

Ask yourself.

What keeps coming back?

Ask yourself.

What are you not letting yourself say?

Ask yourself.

What are you avoiding, specifically?

Ask yourself.

Name it.

The Question.

What's between you and it?

Sit with this before you continue.

Locate.

Name the decision you're circling.

One sentence. Not the background. The decision itself.

Ask yourself.

Is this the real decision, or is there one underneath it?

Ask yourself.

Whose voices are in this decision?

Ask yourself.

Which voices belong?

Ask yourself.

What do you actually want?

In one line.

The Map.

Map your decision.

Ask yourself.

What do you know?

Ask yourself.

What's pulling you towards it?

Ask yourself.

What's holding you back?

Ask yourself.

What are you afraid of?

Ask yourself.

What haven't you said out loud yet?

Edit.

Now take things out.

Strip it back.

Ask yourself.

What are you holding that isn't yours?

Ask yourself.

What do you know, but aren't acting on?

Ask yourself.

What are you ready to let go of?

Ask yourself.

What are you not choosing?

Write it clearly.

Ask yourself.

What does not choosing this cost you?

The Move.

Name the first move.

Not the whole decision, just what moves first. Then commit to it.

Ask yourself.

What's the first move?

One line. No hedging.

Ask yourself.

What does it unlock?

The Move.

Are you making it?

Yes.

I know when.

No.

I need to see what I'm choosing instead.

The Move.

When, exactly?

The Move.

What are you choosing instead?

What you found.

A reflection.

...

Trust what you've found, and that it's yours.

You have the move.
Now make it.

Go from here.