Good Question.
With Kim Stern.
The
Decision
Map.
A tool for when you're circling. Find the move.
Decision Practice Tools—01.

If you're here, something is circling.

Not loudly. Not always urgently. But persistently. The same thought, again. The same decision not resolving. You've turned it over, looked at it from every angle. And still, no move.

This is about finding where you actually are. And from there, the thing that moves first.

If you know the decision you're circling, start there. If something feels unresolved but you can't name it yet, start with B.

Work through this in order. Don't skip ahead. Each section narrows the field, separates noise from signal, removes what isn't yours, and brings you closer to the point.

On the other side of this, you'll know what moves first.

Before you start.
Where are you starting?
A.
I know what decision I'm circling.
B.
Something feels unresolved but I can't name it yet.
Track B.
For when you can't name it yet.
Find the decision you're circling.
Something feels unresolved. Name it.
Ask yourself.
What keeps coming back?
Ask yourself.
What are you not letting yourself say?
Ask yourself.
What are you avoiding, specifically?
Ask yourself.
Name it.
The Question.
What's between you and it?
Name the thing, not the story.
Sit with this before you continue.
Locate.
Name the decision you're circling.
One sentence. Not the background. The decision itself.
Ask yourself.
Is this the real decision, or is there one underneath it?
Ask yourself.
Whose voices are in this decision?
Ask yourself.
Which voices belong?
Ask yourself.
What do you actually want?
In one line.
The Map.
Map your decision.
Ask yourself.
What do you know?
Ask yourself.
What's pulling you towards it?
Ask yourself.
What's holding you back?
Ask yourself.
What are you afraid of?
Ask yourself.
What haven't you said out loud yet?
Edit.
Now take things out.
Strip it back.
Ask yourself.
What are you holding that isn't yours?
Ask yourself.
What do you know, but aren't acting on?
Ask yourself.
What are you ready to let go of?
Ask yourself.
What are you not choosing?
Ask yourself.
What does not choosing this cost you?
The Move.
Name the first move.
Just the thing that moves first. Then commit to it.
Ask yourself.
What's the first move?
One line. No hedging.
Ask yourself.
What does it unlock?
The Move.
Are you making it?
Yes.
I know when.
No.
I need to see what I'm choosing instead.
The Move.
When, exactly?
The Move.
What are you choosing instead?
What you found.
A reflection.
...
You've found your move.

Not the whole answer, but something has resolved enough to move.

Make it. And notice what changes when you do.

Go from here.